Why You Shouldn't Let People Take Your Generosity For Granted

You! Yes, I'm addressing you, the thoughtful and nice one. You've made it halfway through your life and, looking back, you've spent the majority of your time adjusting. Adapting to other people's needs, preferences, and happiness, for example. You believe you are helping them or yourself. You're not doing them any favors, and you're certainly not doing yourself any favors. Please allow me to explain why. 

So, how about we start with them?

They're in the midst of a fight. This conflict could be emotional, physical, psychological, or something else. Let's refer to this conflict as 'life.' They are going about their daily routines. They put forth the effort, fail, and after a series of similar failures, they get exhausted. It's not that they've given up, despite appearances to the contrary. For as long as they are alive, they will fight. You believe they require you, specifically "you." That is precisely where you make a blunder. You are insignificant. They may require a shift in perspective, a spiritual awakening, or simply a good night's sleep. They don't necessarily require your assistance. They are in desperate need of a change. A change of scenery, something to divert their attention away from the difficulties of life.

When you permit yourself to be the assistance you believe they require, you are actually becoming the change they desire to obtain a head start on life so that they may deal with it with more positive energy. Are you that uplifting force? Oh no, you were just the change they needed, the distraction they desperately needed. If you hadn't been there, any other distraction could have taken your place. For example, a bad song or TV show. When you present yourself as that change, you are selling yourself as replaceable, and you will be replaced at some point, if not now. It's best if you quit being that change, that helps you think you are because you are nothing in the first place.

Now let's discuss you. You believe you are assisting others, and that this is making you a better person. How does it make you a better person to go from being a warrior in your own life's struggle to be a temporary distraction for someone else? With or without you, they'll find a way to win their battle. They've got all kinds of legendary nonsense with them, which is a much greater and longer-lasting distraction than you are. If you don't believe me, then ask those blind believers of so-called "holy" texts or God-men.

Let us try to comprehend things in this manner. You used to be a golf player; excellent or awful, it doesn't matter; what matters is that you were a golf player who played your own game. Then you noticed another player fumbling with his bag and clubs one day. You dropped your game in the middle and dashed to become the caddie for that player.

So, do you want to be a golfer or a caddie for someone else? A caddie, as previously said, is disposable and only serves a temporary purpose. It makes no difference who becomes the caddie. Someone else will become that caddie if you don't, and it won't make a difference. 

Don't be the one to make a difference!